So you have a special night planned with the goal of taking your fantasies to a whole other level.

With the success of 50 Shades, the whole role play thing seemed like an interesting new thing to try. Look, everyone has fantasies.  I think that fantasies are what make life interesting.  Aaand, it can make already hot sex even more exciting.   You figured you might want to play a little dress up once in a while.

Look, if your partner trusts you with their wildest fantasies, it can have one of two possible outcomes. Either one of you might be completely repelled and run for the hills when you hear your partner’s deepest desires. Or on the other hand you might be thrilled at the chance to finally play that fantasy role.  Think of how exciting it could be between the two of you…

What you must remember at all times is the fact that when your partner shares their fantasies with you, the two main factors are both trust and fantasy.  Don’t betray their trust. Don’t push the envelope. Don’t tweet it out, even if they become your ex. And most of all, don’t judge.

The second thing is that it is a fantasy.  This means that their fantasy scenario doesn’t define them completely. Who are you to determine what turns them on?  This doesn’t mean be a doormat or do something you don’t want to do.  You still set the boundaries for you.

Plus, when it comes to love, it is important to have an open mind and stay optimistic. Even if everything isn’t perfect, it can still be good and majorly enjoyable. Be open to flaws and mishaps. Keep your sense of humor about you.  After all, this is play, not work.

Let me tell you a story about one of my most passionate role play sessions.  Always up for a new adventure, I prepared for the night to dress up as his fantasy woman. We going to play cops and criminals.  Of course, he wanted me to be the cop, which suited my personality perfectly. See, men have always been attracted to my confidence as a woman.  But this was a whole new level of attraction.  That night, I was calling the shots.

He even styled my hair for the occasion.  Plus we decided how the scene was going to play out before actually doing it. I was going to be the sexy cop who would interrogate him until he gave up the goods and confessed.  Then, I would choose what punishment he would receive which left the door open for all kinds of guilty pleasures.

That was my experience with it.  There are many different roles to plays and scenes to act out. (We’ve got some cool costumes at to help you express your artistic side.)   Trying out different things means you get to experience something new things, keeping that love life spicy.  You eventually get to know what you like and what you don’t. How far you go is up to you.

Fantasy. Everyone has One.
What’s yours?

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